Gender wholeness is easy to understand conceptually. Most simply put, it is the quest for similarity and familiarity with your own gender. It has two parts:

First, your self-concept adequately matches your gender concept. In other words, you have a secure sense of being a man and being masculine, which you don't question in any significant way. You see similarity between yourself and other males.

Second, gender wholeness means that your same-gender affiliation needs are fulfilled by your actual relationship experiences. In other words, you feel securely connected to other men in the world around you, have a sense of attachment and resonance with these men, and feel adequately approved of and affirmed by them. You experience a deep familiarity with other males. All of this can be summarized very briefly with the statement, “I am a man among men.”

Gender wholeness tends to diminish homosexual feelings and impulses. Attractions toward other males tend to become de-sexualized. For some men, gender wholeness eventually leads to the development of opposite-sex attraction.

There is no way to tell how long this will take or even if it will work for every man, but in my experience gender wholeness gives a man the best opportunity for change. And of course, the deeper and more intense the sense of gender wholeness, the greater the change is likely to be. These changes tend to become more constant and consistent over time as gender wholeness deepens.